“In reality, an interview should be viewed as a conversation. It’s two people — the activity’s most analogous in other human behavior to dating.”

–Richard N. Bolles, author of What Color is Your Parachute?

The Washington Post recently released an article on Richard Bolles who recently passed away. His book, What Color is Your Parachute? provided insights for me in my career.

When I read about an interview being a two-way conversation, it changed how I showed up for an interview. Before that, I believed that the company had all the power. They were the ones who had the power to decide if they wanted me or not. Yeah, that’s right, it was personal, and if I got rejected, I felt rejected! After reading this quote, I realized that the interview was as much about my finding out if the company was a good fit for me as it was for them to decide if they wanted me. Just that little shift made a huge difference in how I showed up, and I no longer took rejection personally. Thanks, Richard Bolles!

If you were advising people coming out of college today about their careers and interviewing, what advice would you give them?

By Theresa Gale,