Flourish or Fold?

July 17, 2018 Transformation Tuesday

Most of us know one. That person—friend, family member, colleague or leader—who continues to emerge stronger and wiser after being “knocked down” by life. Time and again, we see them grow exponentially from their setbacks. We marvel at how they contend with tough situations. Often, the challenges they encounter serve to expand their ability to respond to pressure. This helps them clearly see how to deliver better results for their team, and find ways to improve the quality of their personal lives. They actually transform from their challenges. And, yes, they become the leaders we are proud to work with and friends we hold dear. Have you ever wondered what factors these “rebounders” use to flourish from pressure, instead of folding?

It turns out, becoming more resilient is connected to understanding, then practicing, a mindful process behind the initial response to stressful situations. Did you hear that? Flourishing is connected to a certain mindset and having honed skills of self-regulation and self-awareness. These resilient people enter into stressful situations knowing they have the chops to see it through—having practiced much like an athlete does to become ready to compete with a rival team. This changes how your mind and body responds.

We could all be reminded to invest in understanding the tools and approach needed to recover from setbacks. We could all use just a little more emotional strength and resilience. One of the payoffs will most certainly be achieving higher levels of performance. Another will be living a more grounded and awake life.

Here are a few actions to help you explore how to rebound from setbacks:

  • Manage and overcome negative emotions by allowing and acknowledging them.
  • Plan short-term goals to achieve your long-term aspirations.
  • Surround yourself with people who will push you the hardest and have your back when you need support.
  • Use challenges to become a better leader. Know they are there to teach you something really important.
  • Use creativity to move past trauma.
  • Identify resources you will tap into ahead of time, so you know who to call in a pinch.

We believe resilience can be developed. One-on-one transformational coaching helps uncover your unique motivations, strengths and challenges. As you focus on what holds you back, leadership development coaching helps you move forward with clarity and focus. Let us know if we can help.

Resources:
The Making of a Corporate Athlete by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz